May 19, 2013

       

Little silver sparkles of joy

Yeah, that's about what I felt like

Blech… I’ve been all itchy and sneezy and achy for a week now.  A whole week.  Bleh.  The worst part about being a business owner is that when you’re sick and you lie there, all comatose and delirious, the only thing you can think about is your business.  So there I was on Monday and Tuesday, lying on the couch under a big ol’ pile of blankies, half-drunk on Nyquil, with no voice, kleenex in hand, wondering what was going on at QuikHelp.

Lucky for me I have Peter and Maribel, and now our intern Vanessa.  Every day I send little silver sparkles of joy into the world in gratitude for the QuikHelp team.  So even though the flu took me down, it didn’t take QuikHelp down.

The best part of being an entrepreneur is when you hear from the outside world that you’re doing something right.  I know our clients need us.  I know we do good work and we give our clients the best customer service possible.  I know these things, but the hardest part of my job and Peter’s job is to make sure other people know it too.

Ooooh, sparkly!

So, on Wednesday when I came back from my Nyquil-induced three-day coma, I was elated to hear some great feedback we had received.  The first was from a client who called to say that he had won the law suit he was fighting in court.  It was a small claims case.  He felt that what he was being accused of was unjust and he wanted to fight it but he just didn’t know how to.  He came to QuikHelp and we help him put his thoughts on paper and walked him through the process, and he won!  Victory!  Sure, its not our victory, its his, but when he called to say that he couldn’t have done it without us, that felt damn good.

The other feedback came from a divorce client.  She went to have her final divorce decree signed by the judge, and the judge stopped in the middle of the hearing to ask her who had prepared her paperwork.  She told them it was QuikHelp.  The judge told her it was the most well-done paperwork she had seen in a long time and to make sure that the client told us we were doing a great job.  Of course, the client called and told us.  And of course we jumped around and hugged and celebrated!  (Yay!)

Am I bragging a little here?  Yes.  But you know, we work our behinds off everyday and we really give it our all.  Peter works on QuikHelp fifteen hours a day and after that I’m sure he does it in his sleep, too.  And Mari can be found at the courthouse after hours making sure the clients’ paperwork is filed correctly, even though she doesn’t have to.  So today I’m giving off more little silver sparkles of joy than usual because the best part of being an entrepreneur is when you know that you’re making a difference in your little piece of the world because the world told you so.

I'm going to have to get these shoes to match my other silver sparkles


Have a good week everyone!

Tannya

Another year older…

Happy Monday everyone! Today is my birthday and I am… er… thirty something years old.  Whenever it is your birthday it is only appropriate to reflect back on birthdays gone by. So today I will take you back — not so very long ago, mind you — to my thirtieth birthday.

Adrian and Me. Do you see the family resemblance? Ha!

My thirtieth birthday party was awesome, as all thirtieth birthday parties should be.  My brother Adrian came to visit from Oklahoma, my friends Flora and Cathy took me out to dinner, and then we all had a big ol’ party at a really fun bar in New York (I was living in NYC at the time).

Me, my eyelash gems, and Flora Chao (one third of my trio of besties)

Me, my eyelash gems, and Flora Chao (one third of my trio of besties)

Despite the party, and the fun, and the awesome eye makeup (yes, I have little gems on my eyelashes), turning thirty was really tough.  I had just gone through a divorce and was single for the first time in my adult life.  To celebrate my milestone birthday alone, for the first time without my husband, was incredibly painful.  Divorce makes you question who you are.  It makes you reevaluate everything in your life.  It makes you doubt yourself and your decisions.  And turning thirty amid all of that was really awful.

I know at QuikHelp we sometimes poke fun at divorce. (QuikHelp\’s Mini-Movie \”Help, Help I Need A Divorce Too!\” by AnthonyRyanMediaTV)  But I know how serious it is, too.  Having gone through it all myself (without an attorney, by the way) I know exactly what it feels like.  That’s why every birthday since my thirtieth birthday I look back on that day.  Every time I turn a year older I take a moment to look back on that newly-thirty version of me, and reflect.

Since my divorce, I have rebuilt myself and my life and I am happy with me now.  I have managed to surround myself with wonderful friends, here in Tucson and in New York.  I have the love and support of the most amazing, quirky, hilarious group of fun-loving family members a girl could ask for.  My work gives me little blessings every day and allows me to help people who don’t have anywhere else to turn.  I am a very lucky girl.  Put all of that together, and this year I can very truly and honestly look me in the mirror this morning and say “Happy Birthday to Me”.

With love today and always,

Tannya

Life isn’t fair, but your divorce should be

When you’re getting a divorce, one of the first things you have to think about is how to divide up the property. All that stuff you’ve accumulated over the years — who gets it? The house? The cars? The debt?

Many people assume you just split it 50/50. Half for me, half for you. Well sure, if you both agree to that there is usually no reason why a court won’t give you that in your Divorce Decree. But if you can’t agree to a division of property, there is no obligation for the Arizona Superior Court to divide your assets in half for you. Instead, the courts make an equitable distribution because Arizona courts are courts of equity.

A court of equity is a court that is guided by the concept of fairness. They is no law that says that the court has to divide your property equally, they just have to divide it equitably.

What’s fair, anyway?

What’s fair or unfair depends on the judge. It is up to the judge to decide what is a fair distribution of your assets and your debts. And it is up to you to convince a judge that what you are asking for is fair.

If your petition is really skewed in your favor and unfairly skewed against your ex-, the judge may not think that is fair and he doesn’t have to give it to you. At the same time, if the judge thinks that it is fair for you to get everything, he can order that as well.

Fairness depends on your particular case. There are many factors that a judge can and will consider: length of marriage, who worked, who didn’t, who went to school, who raised the kids, who committed domestic violence, who moved out five years ago and never kept in touch, and more.

So before you go drawing a line through the middle of the house, remember that the family courts in Arizona are courts of equity. You may get half of the property and debt, or you may not — it all depends on what is fair.

61 Days to Single: The Arizona Divorce Process

There are two main types of divorce in Arizona: the Uncontested Divorce and the Contested Divorce. Or, as I often think of it: the easy way and the hard way.

The Easy Way
The easy way is when you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse don’t have anything to fight about in the divorce process. This is often the case when you split up a while ago, or when you were married for so short a time that you didn’t really get a chance to have assets, debts, and children together. This is often an Uncontested Divorce –a divorce in which the other person doesn’t contest, or fight, your request for the divorce.

In simple terms, in an uncontested divorce one of you lets the court know you want a divorce, lets the other person know about the court case, then waits for a certain period of time (60 days minimum in Arizona), and then the judge signs the divorce. Sixty-one days after your started, you’re done!

Of course, nothing in the legal world is that simple. You have to file the right set of papers, follow the requirements of the law about how to let the other person know about the divorce, and watch your deadlines. But, with a little help and know-how, an Uncontested Divorce can be a relatively painless process.

The Hard Way
Unfortunately, in many divorces taking the easy way is not an option. Sometimes you just can’t agree on everything, or there are assets, debts, and children that need to be taken into account. In this case the divorce process is not as simple.

In a contested divorce, the process starts off the same: someone opens the case with the court and has to let the other person know about. The other person then has twenty days to respond. Once the other person responds, then you can ask the court will step in to help.

There are two main processes to go through before you get to a hearing: Mediation and Settlement Conferences. In Mediation you discuss child custody and visitation. In Settlement you discuss division of assets and debts. The two matters – children and money – are handled separately. Anything that cannot be agreed upon during these conferences will get decided in front a judge in a hearing.

While a contested divorce has a few more steps than an uncontested divorce, both processes can be navigated with a little help and know-how.

Knowing which process you are about to go through can go a long way towards helping you to get ready. Ask yourself if you and your spouse need some help coming to an agreement or if you just want to be divorced and be on your way. If you’re going to need the court’s help to come to an agreement about assets, debts, or children, you’re probably facing a contested divorce, so do not plan on being done in sixty days.